Josse Ford posted a poem by Oriah Mountain Dreamer that is a moving description of what relationships are all about. I have quoted it below in its entirety. Read it carefully and thoughtfully. It is beautiful. You can check out Josse's posting at her web site Josse Ford: Art Journeys and Conversations. Be sure and check out her photograph of the Hilo coastline she posted with the poem. It makes you want to be there.
More information on Oriah Mountain Dreamer's book's The Invitation
and What We Ache For: Creativity and The Unfolding of Your Soul
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The Invitation
It doesn't interest me what you do for a living.
I want to know what you ache for,
and if you dare to dream of meeting your hearts longing.
It doesnt interest me how old you are.
I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love,
for your dream for the adventure of being alive.
It doesnt interest me what planets are squaring your moon...
I want to know if you have touched the centre of your own sorrow
if you have been opened by lifes betrayals or
have become shrivelled and closed from fear of further pain.
I want to know if you can sit with pain mine or your own
without moving to hide it or fade it or fix it.
I want to know if you can be with joy mine or your own
if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you
to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful,
be realistic, or to remember the limitations of being human.
It doesnt interest me if the story you are telling me
is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another or be true to yourself.
If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul.
I want to know if you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.
I want to know if you can see Beauty even when it is not pretty every day.
And if you can source your own life from its presence.
I want to know if you can live with failure yours and mine
and still stand at the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon,Yes.
It doesnt interest me to know where you live or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and despair
weary and bruised to the bone and do what needs to be done
to feed the children.
It doesnt interest me who you know or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand in the centre of the fire with me
and not shrink back.
It doesnt interest me where or what or with whom
you have studied. I want to know what sustains you
from the inside when all else falls away.
I want to know if you can be alone with yourself
and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.
© Oriah Mountain Dreamer, from the book The Invitation published by HarperSanFrancisco, 1999